10 Feb 2002 #0206.html

Flags of Our Fathers

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Dear Paul and Kate, Melanie and Jared, Bridget and Justin, Sara, Ben and Sarah, Heather, Audrey, Rachel, and Matt via hardcopy,

cc: file, Tony Hafen, Pauline Nelson via mail, Sara and Des Penny, Lloyd and Luana Warner, Diane Cluff, and Maxine Shirts.

Welcome to "Thoughtlets." This is a weekly review of an idea, belief, thought, or words that will hopefully be of some benefit to you, my children, with an electronic copy to on-line extended family members. Any of you can ask me not to clutter your mail box at any time.

"There were three separate things this week which I thought woud make a reasonable title for a Thoughtlet.

On Thursday evening we went to the Grand Opening for the Taylor High School PAC (Perfoming Arts Center). Rachel sang with the choir in two numbers. They were very good. I could not help but think of Paul as JD Janda received a very touching UIL Southwestern Bell Sponsored Excellence Award (given to 15 High School Teachers from all across Texas and from all disciplines involving UIL). The UIL State Director of music came from Austin to give the award, and I could not help but resonate with his words:

`I go to a lot of these performances all across Texas and the nation. It doesn't get any better than this. We have an 8 year old son at home, and I just hope and pray he will have a band teacher like JD Janda.'


Even the anger I felt boil up inside as Mr. McDonald spoke (I clearly recall the last few months of Paul's Senior year at Taylor High School), conspired to sharpen my senses to the experience. Bishop Camp's daughter Holly was the lead singer in highlights from this year's Taylor Musical: The Boyfriend. The orchestra was exceptional, and I could not help but think how much my sister would have enjoyed `Paragon Rag' and `Country Club' by Scott Joplin. I even enjoyed the Pacesetter's dance routine. As the Theater group quoted various American Patriots, I found tears of pride in America. The jazz band played `In the mood,' and I could imagine Paul up there with his saxophone. There was a really neat xylophone trio, with other percussion. Rachel and the Choir sang `Cindy,' an American Folk Song. Expresssions sang a couple of numbers and the Orchestra played `Ashokan Farewell' and 'Hoedown from Rodeo' by Aaron Copland. There was a neat song which combined many of the Beach Boy's songs called `Surf's Up.' JD Janda received his award. The Wind Ensemble performed Aaron' Copland's `Lincoln Portrait.' Then the Theater Department quoted various other American Patriots. And the choir and combined Fine Arts Department students closed with `America The Beautiful.'

As we left, I stopped to ask the video camera operator if I could get a copy of the tape for Paul and my sister. It turns out he is Rachel's boss, which Andrea knew, and so even though copies are not available, I think we will get a copy. As we left, we looked at the paintings on display. As much as I loved High School, we did not do anything near the quality of what was shown at the PAC.

The second thing to get my rapt attention this week was the opening ceremony at the Salt Lake City Olympics. I remember walking in as the Sydney opening ceremony was broadcast, and watching the torch lit and the cauldren climb the stairs. Thought it was neat. Friday night's program was simple and elegant. I wonder what it took to get those five Utah indian tribes on the same stage at the same time. When we used to go ice skating on the Kenny Pond at the top of The Lane (Minnersville Road), it was not anywhere near as elegant as the ice skating, flames, and fireworks accompanying the opening ceremony. I loved watching an olympic athelete `forcing' a cell phone on President Bush when he sat with the atheletes after starting the games. It was neat to hear the challenges, and the oaths not to use any drugs or body enhancing steroids. Hopefully the message gets out to those who are playing with or trying out addictive drugs of any kind, including alcohol, tobacco, coffee, and tea. It was elegant. I was proud of Mitt Romney and his organizing committee. The whole ceremony reflects on my culture, my beliefs, and my heritage. And of course, by saying `my' I am also saying this heritage and culture belongs to you, my descendents. It was amazing the 10 folks who carried in the Olympic Flag. As each one was announced, I was more startled. First class. And, of course, the ceremony started with the Flag retrieved from the twin towers being carried into the stadium.

Since there were flags at the PAC Grand Opening, and since there were all kinds of flags at the opening of the Salt Lake City Olympics, I decided to use my third choice as a title for this week's Thoughtlet: `Flags of Our Fathers.'

On January 27th of last month, Matt and I went to do our Home Teaching. We only had 2 families, the Riches and Hayden Hudson. Hayden wasn't home. I sent him an e-mail, and he sent back a note saying he was OK, and:

`COMPANY POLICY Start with a cage containing five monkeys. Inside the cage, hang a banana on a string and place a set of stairs under it. Before long, a monkey will go to the stairs and start to climb towards the banana. As soon as he touches the stairs, spray all of the other monkeys with very cold high-pressure water. After a while, another monkey makes an attempt with the same result - all the other monkeys are sprayed with cold water. Pretty soon, when another monkey tries to climb the stairs, the other monkeys will try to prevent it. Now, put away the cold water. Remove one monkey from the cage and replace it with a new one. The new monkey sees the banana and wants to climb the stairs. To his surprise and horror, all of the other monkeys attack him. After another attempt and attack, he knows that if he tries to climb the stairs, he will be assaulted. Next, remove another of the original five monkeys and replace it with a new one. The newcomer goes to the stairs and is attacked. The previous newcomer takes part in the punishment with enthusiasm! Likewise, replace a third original monkey with a new one, then a fourth, then the fifth. Every time the newest monkey takes to the stairs, he is attacked. Most of the monkeys that are beating him have no idea why they were not permitted to climb the stairs or why they are participating in the beating of the newest monkey. After replacing all the original monkeys, none of the remaining monkeys have ever been sprayed with cold water. Nevertheless, no monkey ever again approaches the stairs to try for the banana. Why not? Because as far as they know that's the way it's always been done around here. And that, my friends, is how company policy begins.'


After our Home Teaching message to the Riches, we were talking while Matt went and played with the kids. I described reading Ayn Rand's `Anthem' over the previous couple of weeks, which Steve Riches had recommended, and how much I enjoyed it. Steve went and got a book he had just read and said how much he enjoyed reading it. I borrowed it. I read it this week. It is called `Flags of Our Fathers.' It is the best book I have read in years. I thoroughly enjoyed it. It is about The Photograph of six U.S. Marines raising the flag on Iwo Jima. It describes the home life and ancestry of these six young men. It describes the author's interest in getting to know his Father after he found out his father earned the Navy Cross at Iwo Jima (Sulphur Mountain in Japanese). It described their enlistment, their training, the armada, D-Day, D-Day Plus One, D-Day Plus Two, D-Day Plus Three, the flag raising, the myths, the next 33 days, coming home, the war bonds, the movies, the honors, the nightmares, the successes, and the failures. I quote three paragraphs from page 333:

`What's also clear-to me, at least- is that the notion he died young as a result of his fame is just bunk. Today a battle-scarred Ira Hayes would be diagnosed with post-traumatic stress syndrome, and there would be understanding and treatment available to him. But in the late forties and early fifties, Ira had to suffer alone. Suffer daily with images of and misplaced guilt over his `good buddies who didn't come back.' The Photograph will forever inspire paeans to glory and valor among those who see the figures as immortals. To those of us who knew them as ordinary men, there's another side to the story. Imagine six boys from your youth. Line them up in your mind. They are eighteen to twenty-four years old. Select them now; see them. How many marriages, how many children will intersect their lives?'


I doubt if this book report will touch you and get you to buy or check out of a library and read the book: `Flags of Our Fathers' James Bradley ISBN 0-553-38029-X. However, if it does and you read it I promise you that you will be a better and a more patriotic person for having met the challenge. I cried. In fact, I cried many times as I read the book. It reached into my soul and made me proud to be a U.S. citizen.

A few weeks ago, Sara sent me the obituary of one of our family friends from Cedar. I want to share it, in the spirit of `Flags of our Fathers,' because I never knew Wendell Jones was part of the first assault wave to reach Omaha Beach on D-Day in Normandy:

`Henry W. Jones CEDAR CITY Henry Wendell Jones, 86, passed away January 15, 2002, from injuries sustained in an automobile accident in Cedar City, Utah. Wendell was born May 19, 1915, in Cedar City, Utah, to Henry Lunt Jones and Artemesia Gardner Jones. He married Carmen Croft on June 30, 1951, in the St. George Temple. He attended BAC in Cedar City and enjoyed playing basketball there. He was an avid football and basketball fan and enjoyed watching his grandchildren wrestle and play soccer and basketball. Wendell attended BYU before being called on a mission to the New England States. He was a High Priest in the Cedar Eight Ward. Wendell was a company commander in the 743rd Tank Battalion, which was the first assault wave to reach Omaha Beach on D-Day, June 6, 1944. He was awarded the District Service Cross, Bronze Star Medal, and the Purple Heart. He enjoyed being in the livestock business. His greatest joy was going up on the mountain or out on the desert with his sons or grandsons to check on the livestock. He spent many winters west of Panaca, Nevada herding sheep. He was involved in state and local Woolgrower's and Cattlesmen's organizations throughout most of his life. His livelihood was his hobby. Something else he enjoyed was going on short trips throughout Southern Utah with his wife Carmen. Wendell was deeply loved by his wife, children, and grandchildren. Survivors include his wife, Carmen of Cedar City, Utah; daughter, Jan Dimick (David) of Austin, Texas; sons, Howard Wendell (Becky), and Curtis Croft Jones of Cedar City, Utah. Brother; Reuben Jones (Josephine) of Cedar City, Utah; sister, Henrietta Harris (Richard) of San Diego, California. Wendell has nine grandchildren, Matt, Luke, Josh, Philip, Amanda, Sam, Christian, Mesia, and Taylor. He was preceded in death by his parents, sister Margaret, and infant brother Robert. Funeral services will be held Saturday, January 19, 2002, at 11:00 a.m. at the Cedar City Second and Eight Ward Chapel, 212 West 200 South. Friends may call Friday, January 18, 2002, from 6:00-8:00 p.m. and on Saturday, January 19, 2002 from 9:30-10:30 a.m. at Southern Utah Mortuary. Interment will be held at the Cedar City Cemetery. In Lieu of flowers please donate to the Primary Children's Hospital.'


I had no idea the heros I grew up with. I recall stopping to talk to Carmen, Wendell, and Curtis (see ../2000/0048.html), what seems like yesterday. I guess there was more meaning in the U.S. flag than even I recognized, when I wrote about it last year (../2001/0139.html). Since Wendell's oldest son was also named Howard, there was always a bond there, even though he was several years younger than me. They always came out to our house for Mom's annual Christmas Open House. And Carmen was a weaver (she told me she got burned out and stopped, when we visited). She helped teach Grandma Hafen how to weave, and she was always doing things for and with Mom and Grandma Hafen. Oh that we truly understood the flags of our fathers! What a wonderful heritage we share. I hope my simple insights help you each to recognize and incorporate this heritage in your lives.

As far as the week, it was quiet. Sam LeRoy and I gave a 2 hour presentation to Santos, a large Austrailan oil company. The follow up meeting was postponed from Friday to this next Thursday. I met with Joel Davis, who represented Hunt Oil at the Seismic Acoustics Laboratory when I worked for the University of Houston. He works with a major insurance company now, reviewing oil deals for them. He stayed for a meeting with Jack Platt and Kevin Franz. Kevin and I met again on Friday. His wife, Kathy, taught Roice and Melanie at Memorial Parkway Junior High School. He is a lawyer, interested in taking drilling deals to some of his clients. Keith Cote came by and picked up the Spotfire Computer in the afternoon. Oh well! I went to the University of Houston in the evening for the annual Milt Dobrin Lecture. Andrea had a Young Women's Presidency meeting, and I didn't realize a lot of my friends would be there with their wives. Ben sent me an e-mail about cement production of CO2 a few weeks ago, and I had passed it on to the speaker, Jamie Robertson. His topic was global climate change. Really well put together. Guess this could have been a 4th title for this week's Thoughtlet. I have several pages of notes from his talk. Maybe some slow week I'll write it out. Good stuff. Maybe I say that because I was the only person he referenced in his talk, based on my e-mail to him about cement, etc.

On Wednesday I met with Joe Watson, Alf Klaviness' friend. He really isn't interested in retiring for another year. He is interested in mentoring me, and so hopefully there will be something come from this new friendship/acquaintance. Wednesday eveing Albert Boulanger and I had dinner at The Goode Seafood Company. Albert wasn't feeling well and ended up not eating much. It was amazing to learn about all of the new developments that have happed this last couple of months. And a lot of the developments are being driven by Homeland Security. They have GPS (Global Position Sensor) referenced sensors the size of a whiteboard marker cap, which have the ability, using something ultra wide band, to report on what they are sensing by radio telemetry. This has significant implications to measurement and monitoring of oil fields, pipelines, traffic, pollution, people, etc. I'm sure I will write a lot about this stuff over the coming months.

Thursday evening Andrea and I went to the PAC Grand Opening, described above. Friday I ment with Kevin, learned about his wife being Melanie and Roice's teacher, and watched the Olympics. I started reading Flags of Our Fathers last Sunday, read a little most evenings, some at lunch, and finished it up this afternoon after church. Yesterday Andrea, Matt, and I worked on the yard, triming trees, and collecting all of the leaves. It was a full day. I was wiped out by evening. Matt and I had an altercation, and I stopped putting up with his stuff. It has not been easy for him since yesterday. I hope and pray there will be some breakthroughs for him and his ability to be around and interact with others come from this. Rachel had Sadie Hawkins last night. She had a good time, and there was some unnecessary trauma brought on by some of her friends. Oh well! I watched olympics, read, and worked on Dynamic stuff in the evening.

Today was nice. Sara, Melanie, and Jared came over for breakfast at 9:15. Paul and Kate, I made a double batch of your German Pancakes for breakfast. Lots of butter. Really good with strawberry jam. Sara asked what was in it, and I started to refer her to the Thoughtlet woth the recipe (../0118.html) she said, `No, No, Dad, we're having a conversation!' Opps! There was interesting discussion about how counting swallows wouldn't work because it would simply result in giant swallows and the creation of bad habits. As a scientist, I found this an interesting diversion. Obviously it won't work if I were to do things different, and not do things the way I always have. I consider it a matter of scientific integrity to not change the measuring stick. From what was said, it sounds like Rob is doing OK, although it was pretty obvious there were things that were not said, like the gender of his friend whom he is living with. He has gone back to Mayde Creek High School and is on schedule to graduate. This is great.

Sara, Melanie, and Jared came to sacrament meeting with us for Amy William's missionary farewell. Nice meeting, even if Andrea and I were asked to say the opening and closing prayer in Sacrament Meeting for the first time since we have been married. Paul Sullivan was visiting for the first time in a couple of years. I skipped Sunday School, copied some things for Andrea and Young Women about the Daddy-Daughter Fun & Games Night (0208.html), and spent a half-hour catching Paul up on the things we have been doing at Dynamic Resources. Interesting conversation. I missed saying goodbye to Melanie and Jared. Good priesthood meeting. Dave Williams taught the lesson. This afternoon I finished reading `Flags of Our Fathers, wrote this, watched most of a Star Trek movie, went to Amy's open house, and watched some of the olympics.

The PAC is a lovely auditorium. The opening ceremony of the Salt Lake City Olympics was touching. Reading about The Photograph and all of the implications coming from a chance 1/400th of a second shutter click has got my mind roving through our blessings. Last Sunday Riley Skeen called and we talked for a while on his free cell phone minutes. He said two things I have thought about all week:

`We never quit worrying about our kids!' `We are never happier than our most unhappy child!'

And so we strive to live and love and be an example, so our kids will be able to write positive words about the the flags of our fathers."

I'm interested in sharing weekly a "thoughtlet" (little statements of big thoughts which mean a lot to me) with you because I know how important the written word can be. I am concerned about how easy it is to drift and forget our roots and our potential among all of distractions of daily life. To download any of these thoughtlets go to http://www.walden3d.com/thoughtlets or e-mail me at rnelson@walden3d.com.

With all my love,
Dad
(H. Roice Nelson, Jr.)

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Copyright © 2002 H. Roice Nelson, Jr.